Parenting advice or unnecessary criticism!!!

      As a parent of 4 children and a babysitter/ nanny, I can honestly say there is no one right way to raise kids. Unless of course a child is being neglected or abused, everyone has their own style or beliefs of how their children should be raised. Every child is different and their for what works for one child may not work for another. Being a parent we have to learn by trial and error and try to figure out what our children's needs and wants are to figure out which methods would work best. So next time you see children well behaved and you ask the parents how they do it? Don't feel like a failure if it doesn't work with your children. Or if you see a child misbehaving and the parents seem frustrated and unsure of what to do, don't assume you can help by telling them what to do. Has this happen to you? How did you handle the situation?